Peacock Purpose

Image via National Geographic

My friends, family, and bridesmaids keep asking me what is up with the peacock thang? I am not overly into "themed" weddings, but I have been incorporating peacock accents into the wedding. But, why?

Well, the answer is simple... I don’t know.

After getting engaged, picking a venue, and beginning to iron out the details of our day, Mr. Porcupine and I easily agreed on doing a “blue thing.” We both love blue. Mr. Porcupine objected to “girly” colors- whatever those may be. Since I never thought much about my own wedding I was cool with that. I don’t want a pink wedding (one of said girly colors Mr. Porcupine objected to), and I always flock to blue. Easy, simple, done.

Then I started my foray into wedding blogs. Peacock weddings were popping up everywhere. The blue/green-ness (and yes, sometimes purple- but I’m skipping out on that color) matched up with the colors I love to wear. Even though I will be WEARING a white dress on the big day, I still flock to a blue color palette. It’s bizarre. If you look into my closet you will see far too much blue. Sometimes I come home with new clothes, hang them in my closet, and curse at myself for buying something seemingly the same exact color as 90 other things in my closet. Apparently I also have wardrobe memory loss.

So, why peacock? I dunnoz, I LIKE IT! Sometimes planning a wedding makes people too obsessive with finding the freakin' meaning in all the details. Yes, I want a meaningful wedding, but everything doesn't have to go with a story. (Once upon a time Miss Porcupine met Mr. Porcupine while walking through a beautiful field. In the yonder distance they saw a peacock strutting its stuff down a hill. They knew right then and there they were meant for something huge....err no). Sometimes you forget that a wedding is also about having fun, and celebrating the start of a new family. You can't find more meaning then that.

So, we’re doing this peacock thing. Because I said so. Because it's fun! It will look darned pretty, and everyone will like it. And, if they don’t, I will never know, because I certainly don’t think anyone will tell me to my face. Winning all around.

Did you pick your wedding colors or theme on a whim, or do they hold more meaning to you?

Wedding funkalunk

I’ve been in a real wedding funk lately. Now that most of our vendors are booked, it’s time for the details. And, honestly, this is stressing me out more than anything. There are so many little things to decide on/iron out (song choices, place cards, guest book, favors, etc). And, most importantly of the detail woes, we have to somehow find the time with our insane, busy schedules (plus the future hubs’ annoying work schedule) to make a trip down to PA so that I can test out hair salons, and we can do a menu tasting.

The tasting has been a huge source of annoyance for me. Our caterer/venue requires the menu choice for each guest to be decided upon before the wedding. This means I can’t order my invitations without knowing what to tell the guests the menu options are. I could, in theory, order the invitations and get the menu card inserts later, but I live in pointless fear that the invitation I choose will get discontinued leaving me without matching menu inserts (I know, I know… the “horror”).



My hair/makeup trial has been my biggest concern. Finding a salon in a place where I don’t live has made me feel sick to my stomach. My problem is, I have BIG HAIR that many people can’t style well. I also have a large wedding party (plus moms, aunts, etc), so I need to find an affordable salon that can handle 12 or more women’s hair/makeup needs the day of the wedding. I have found that a lot of the salons in the area are pricey (as in more expensive then what I pay for a NYC haircut) and tiny!

On top of all this I have two very good friends getting married in the next few months. I find myself more excited for their weddings. The idea of just going to a wedding and having fun without having to worry about how I look, how much the guests are enjoying the day, if things are going to fall through the cracks, is much more appealing to me then dealing with my own wedding.

I know it will all come together, but right now it just makes me want to go sit on my couch and watch "Jail."

Has anyone else hit the wedding funk?